Beauty · My Concern

#PersonalThoughts : Should Myself Fit-In to the Beauty Standard ?

Beauty standard does exist EVERYWHERE. We can’t deny the fact that society form certain beauty standard. It’s also the society whom against that beauty standard when it’s ‘harmful’ for other people.

Are we going to talk about how the beauty standard formed ? Nope. At least not in this article.

What’s the Beauty Standard in Indonesia (particularly Javanese) for female ?

*First thing first I’m going to point out the beauty standard from my very own experience and perspective. It doesn’t apply to anyone, that’s why it called a stereotype. So ~ chill ~

Obviously, have no obesity. Some people say skinny is better than fatty. Probably, in romantic relationship, it’s shameful for some men to ‘walk’ with big girl. Or it’s difficult to hold them. Not sure. Also probably people think fatty is unhealthy, while it’s not 100% true. You know, every body-shapes has a chance to be unhealthy.

No arm & leg hair. Arm and leg hair is just for men. That’s what I thought until high school. I only knew that women had soft and thin arm & leg hair. I entered university and realized that women could also had a pretty thick arm & leg hair. And that’s not a ‘sin’, that’s normal. Nothing to be ashamed of.

Fair skin-tone. Some people call our, Javanese people, skin-tone as exotic. It’s not dark yet not very bright, just like tanned-skin. We call it ‘sawo matang’, literally means ripped ‘sawo’ (kind of fruit). However, having bright skin consider as prettier than having ‘sawo matang’ skin. Like, when people ask what girl’s type men would like to date. They always mention, “Tinggi (tall), putih (bright skin), langsing (slim)”. Every person has their own type okay ? So chill ~~

Straight & Long Hair. Long hair considered as feminine, straight hair considered as tidy and pretty. Having short hair particularly men-like-haircut considered as a tomboy, even parents want their daughters to maintain their hair long. Talking about hair shape, there was the era where straightener tool is famous and almost all of my female friends have it. And most of them straighten their hair. Then, another era came where perm and wavy hair became a trend. Well ~ it’s just up to our decision either to follow the trend or not, right ?

What’s my relationship with those beauty standard ?

I couldn’t count how many people -for my entire 24 years life- told me that I’m fat, I need to lose weight, I have unhealthy body, I won’t get a man ’cause I’m fat, asking my body’s weight. I got offended, ’cause I KNEW they didn’t say that to encourage me to be a better person. They did that ’cause I was different from probably what they expected. And I didn’t ask them to interfere my body, I didn’t interfere theirs as well. Lately, I don’t take what others words as an ‘insult’. Whatever they say, I’m here just being myself. And doing my best to become healthy and happy !

So the answer for ‘Should I Fit-In to the Beauty Standard?’ is NO.

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Music · My Concern

#OnlineResearch : The Relationship Between Millennials and Music

Music is not a privilege for millennials, however millennials affect the music industry these days. What is the relationship between millennials and music ?

First thing first let’s break down what millennials supposed to mean. Some articles say millennials born between 1980 and 1994, another articles say millennials born between 1980 and 2000. Let’s not debate about that here, okay ? There are several stereotypes characteristics of millennials which tend to the negative sides, such as :

  1. Millennials prefer having small-paid job which comply their passion rather than having a high-paid job which doesn’t meet their requirements even though they have the qualifications for the job;
  2. Millennials are consider lazy because they see themselves as the more hard-working and responsible rather than the generation before them;
  3. Millennials work to live rather than live to work;
  4. Millennials are compulsive job-hoppers, they will go to one job to another jobs to meet their satisfaction;
  5. Millennials have little time for experienced colleagues.

Do you think those stereotypes are absolutely true ? Or do you have another idea about the millennials’ characteristics ? Either those are applied to every individual or only stereotypes because of certain people, I believe there’s the reasons behind it.

The relationship between millennials and music. The data given by ERA and BPI that millennials listen to music 75% more than baby boomers (people who were born between 1946 and 1964). Based on Billboard survey about millennials artist on music industry on 2016, ‘Where Are U Now’ by Skrillex & Diplo feat. Justin Bieber and ‘Royal’ by Lorde is the best songs which represent millennials best. While Kehlani is one of the most innovative millennials singer. Those data from the survey took place in USA and Britain, but it can represents a little bit about music industry in Indonesia.

Let’s break down some well-known Indonesian millennial artists in music industry.

  1. Raisa and Isyana Sarasvati, as their newest collaboration single ‘Anganku Anganmu‘ music video watched by more than 10 million viewers on YouTube, which just released on March 2017. That is such a huge hits ! The worth mentioning thing is both of them were born on early 90’s.
  2. Tulus, as his latest album ‘Monokrom’ with some best hits such as ‘Monokrom‘ and ‘Pamit‘, chosen as Album of The Year Indonesian Choice Awards 2017. Tulus, himself, also chosen as Male Singer of The Year in the same award;
  3. Rizky Febian, born on late 90’s, well-known for his songs ‘Kesempurnaan Cinta‘ and ‘Penantian Berharga‘ which both the music videos watched by more than 30 million viewers.
  4. Jaz, a 23-year-old male singer, with his most best song ‘Dari Mata‘ which released on May 2016 as the music video watched by more than 30 million viewer on YouTube. Like almost everywhere I go, mall or cafe, the song is being played. He is nominated as the Favorite Male Singer on Cornetto Pop Awards this July;
  5. Yura Yunita, from her album ‘Yura’ there are hits songs such as ‘Cinta dan Rahasia‘ and ‘Berawal dari Tatap‘. She has been nominated several awards such as Indonesian Choice Awards and Anugerah Musik Indonesia (AMI) Award. Yura was chosen as the Most Friendly Musician in OZ Radio Bandung FM Awards 2017;
  6. Dipha Barus, the only DJ mentioned in this list, he collaborated with some singers such as Rinni Wulandari & Teza Sumendra with their song ‘Lemme Get That‘, Kallula with their song ‘No One Can Stop Us‘ and Nadin ‘All Good‘. He was chosen as the Best Dance/ Electronic Production Work at AMI Award 2016.

I can say that their music represents the millennial music listeners in Indonesia. I can get several similarities from them :

  1. The genre mostly are pop, jazz, and the collaboration between those two; including Dipha Barus even though his music has EDM aspect in it. Millennials listening more soft music these days to balance their ‘rough’ days;
  2. The songs mostly talk about romantic relationship and love, which probably millennials concern about it more and represent their life;
  3. The music video style is like a short movie, which millennials enjoying audio visual platform;
  4. The singers’ voice is clear and they have easy-listening songs, which millennials prefer a relaxing music to refresh their mind from their dense daily routine;
  5. They mostly released their single(s) or album on digital platform such as Spotify and YouTube, where most millennials prefer those platform rather than the physical form like CD/ DVD.

From the conclusion above, we can say that music these days represents the life of millennials. And the music industries might be adjust themselves to the millennials ‘requirements’ toward music as for 2020 they will be the most productive generation.

Coffee · My Concern

Is Coffee My Life ?

That’s a pretty easy question yet tough answer. At least for me.

I don’t remember when did exactly I start to like coffee.

Probably it was just me watching my mother drinking coffee every morning, since her teenage life even until now, she is 54. Then I got emerged on it and started liking coffee. I don’t know, not sure.

How do my mother drink coffee ? Like any other households in mostly Indonesia; she mixes the coffee powder with granulated sugar then pouring the hot water. Stir it until the sugar dissolved. We calls it kopi tubruk.

She drinks the coffee after it settles down in the bottom of the cup. And it has a delicate taste !

Anyway I’m not going to talk about my mother’s liking toward coffee.

It’s me, my turn, I wonder whether coffee is my life.

Wait ! Is it even a necessary topic to talk about ? Yes absolutely !


Morning coffee. That’s what cross my mind when people say, “I’m a coffee drinker” or “I’m a coffee lover”.

They can’t start the day without drinking their morning coffee. Either they drink it at home or buy it on their way to their work.

And that is super cool !

However that’s not what I am. I can’t drink coffee in the morning, or I even barely have my breakfast. It makes me nauseous.

Why ? Perhaps, my body can’t adjust itself to caffeine.

*First thing first yeah I know tea also has caffeine on it, and I don’t drink tea often.

Well ~ I’m not sure, I’ve never had any medical check-up before so I just make my assumption.

The coffee affect on my body is probably common for “amateur” coffee drinkers; nausea, feeling super active, feeling excited, dizziness, I even throw up everything I digested before drinking the coffee.

I don’t want to give up on coffee despite the effects to my body.

Observing my own body. I drink the coffee brand my mother always buys, it’s an  arabica  coffee. And yeah my body gives me the reactions I mentioned before.

Lately, I realized that my body reacts quite different towards robusta coffee. I get less nauseous.

What makes my body reacts differently ? I, then, comparing these two species of coffee.

An article here says that arabica coffee has a little bit sour taste, also I find another article here says that the acidity is high. That article also says that the robusta coffee has more, almost double, caffeine than arabica coffee.

Then I understand that my body wants the lower acidity in the coffee and pretty fine with the caffeine.

Yes ! I finally figure it out ! Sorry caffeine, I “blame” you all these years. Now I know !

Since then I often buy my “own” low acidity robusta coffee. If the term makes sense. LoLs.

I can have my morning coffee now ? Nope. My body still can’t consume it in the morning, I can’t stand the wanna-throw-up feeling !

Is coffee my life now ? If “my life” means I can’t live without coffee, then the answer is NO. Then do I still consider as a coffee lover ? Yes I am, I enjoying drinking it whenever I want to.

— It is always delightful to find my “own” coffee — Rani Aisyah

My Concern

#PersonalThoughts : Let’s Not Have Any Commitments

This is about romantic relationships.

What’s the point of having commitment when it’ll hurt one or both sides ?

I want to have a man whom I love and love me back, our love should be equals.

IMO, love needs commitment while I don’t want it.

People will eventually get hurt but I don’t want to get hurt by our commitments, because the healing process will take quite some times or it’ll remain forever. I don’t want that !

The commitments will bring ourselves to our families.

Can we have our commitments without your families or mine bother us ? Ever ?

They can be the most supported people for us ever, yet they can be hurting us even worse than strangers.

‘Cause I’ve been going through that for my entire life. I’m tired !

Then can we just ~ the two of us ?

If it’s not possible, then let me just not loving you or even knowing you.

My Concern

#PersonalThoughts : Let Me Enjoy Being Me

It’s somehow a habit for people to generate body-shape standard and picture the non-general body-shape as a very bad thing. I’ll talk about how people around me interfere my body-choice.

“Dik* you need to have a diet, look at you. You’re too fat,” my aunt directly told me that.

I was, of course, pretty surprised hearing her said that.

I mean, come on ! She only met me after years and that was her comment ?

I wasn’t the polite-to-relatives kind of girl, so I talked back to her and I believe that was my right.

“You’ll hardly get a husband with your body,” she added.

Waow ! Is she God or what ?

I, then, told her that I didn’t care about that. Like come on, I need a man of course, but not the one whom doesn’t want me.

It’s so weird how she said those nasty words, she also has plus size body and I expected her to encourage me.

That was one comment from my relative, I got lots of bad comments about my body and mostly I let them know that I feel comfortable with my body. Duh !
Seriously though, I don’t bother others’ body-shape choices. In one condition, as long as others don’t bother me. I’m not the kind-to-all type of person anyway.

This mature sexy looks, taken 4 years ago

Listen, if those people think plus size means not healthy and they want me to get healthier. There’s a good way to give me advice, not by giving discouraging words.
I really do my best to accept my body, yet sometimes I can also feel insecure if people discouraging me almost all the time.

Don’t get me wrong. I don’t ask others to encourage me, yet I don’t ask them to discourage me either. I don’t think they will get any benefits anyway. However they keep doing it.

I have a pretty ‘sharp’ tongue*, sometimes spell out whatever I mean to in a good way, apparently that’s only what I thought. Some people tend to think I’m too offensive.

Anyway, with that kind of character, people still giving me bad comments. Don’t you usually avoid being judgmental to ‘sharp-tongue’ people like me ? Ahh unfortunately it doesn’t apply here. They are too happy meddling others’ matters.

Yeah yeah, the way I think like this isn’t an instant result, it needs process. The older I get the more knowledge I get and one of the knowledge is to accept any body shapes. It’s even weirder, people who bad commenting my body are from my age and even older like my relatives. Don’t people usually get mature throughout the time ? Ooh yaa of course, age doesn’t define maturity and maturity doesn’t defined by age.

The elegant looks, taken a month ago.

I admit that I’m a plus size woman; fat, stretch mark surely exist inside my body, yet I’m enjoying all of that.

I’ve ever read a meme about friendships, a very close friends bonding by ‘sarcasm’ and ‘insult’. And yeah, me and my close friends are on that state. I don’t get offended by what they say and vice versa, ’cause we don’t mean it to literally insult each other. Do strangers usually insult each other and everything just fine ? Hhmm, I don’t think so. They will get offended, right ? And maybe fight each other. Oke Rani stop right there ! You don’t know that much. Ooppss alright.

Last thing, do my body shape bother you ? If yes, why ?

Haii people out there, whoever read this. Please enjoy being you !

Thanks for reading. Have a nice day.

P.S.

*Dik = Adik, an address for younger people. Usually to address younger siblings. But yeah my aunts and uncles address me ‘adik’.

*Sharp-tongue = people who talk freely that sometimes others get offended by. Sorry not sure how to describe this well. Indonesian people tend to small talk and not spell out their thoughts (sometimes I do). So freely-talk people still a minority (I don’t do any research about this of course, but it seen). Thoughts here means a good way, not the thoughts for bad commenting others or another bad thoughts.

Beauty

Just Miss ULTIMATTE in Queen Bee

Just Miss is one of the local Indonesia’s cosmetics brand which has various products with affordable price. From the decorative cosmetics products to nail products.

Just Miss is usually sold in Stroberi store at certain mall.

This time I’ll write a review, which definitely my own opinion, about Just Miss ULTIMATTE Waterproof Lip Cream in Queen Bee.

Queen Bee is an orchid shade with magenta undertone.

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Just Miss ULTIMATTE in Queen Bee

Formula

IMHO, it has a creamy-liquidy formula, at first it pretty liquidy then feels creamy on the lips.

This lip cream dries pretty fast, if you need another coat apply it as fast as possible or else the dry coat will come off.

Just Miss ULTIMATTE in Queen Bee has a pretty dead-matte finish, which people might look for.

It has a quite good coverage, one coat can fill in the whole lips.

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Longevity

I’ve only wore it twice, yet I could already tell this lip cream was long lasting.

I wore it from around 9 am. and it lasted until the next morning, yeah I didn’t erase my lipstick.

A tiny little amount faded on the butthole lips after I ate my meals like three times.

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Nothing Special with The Applicator, Just Like Another Liquid Lipstick

Fragrance

The fragrance is super nice, a strawberry-sweet-like kind of smell.

Pretty similar with Revlon Ultra HD Matte Lipcolor in Love/ Amour.

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The Shade Here is Lighter than The Actual Shade

Does it suit my taste ?

I didn’t lips-swatch this liquid lipstick ’cause found it uncomfortable on my lips, even though I applied lip balm first.

It dried easily, not a bad thing of course, yet not a good thing either for me.

I couldn’t build up the colour ’cause once I applied another coat, the coat on my lips swept away.

Maybe I couldn’t use the applicator well that it turned out not as I expected.

Anyway I actually love the colour, still going to wear it.

I might apply it with my finger, don’t use the applicator. LoLs.

I find it lighter and easier to apply that way.

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The Shade Here is Pretty Similar with The Actual Shade

Where to buy ?

I bought this on Stroberi store at MOG (Mall Olympic Garden) Malang, the price was IDR 36,000.

MATOS (Malang Town Square) also has Stroberi store which you might find it there as well.

You can also buy it on Just Miss official online store, it costs IDR 35,000.

Thank you for reading ! Have a nice day !

 

P.S. : All the images featured here belongs to my personal documents.